Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
- More than anything, ENFJs are enthusiastic.
- Energetic and excited about interacting with other children.
- Enjoy team sports and group activities.
- Smile easily.
- Enjoy being the center of attention.
- Socially confident.
- People pleasers.
- Strong desire to nurture.
- Enjoy role playing games putting them in a care-taking position, such as nurse, doctor, parent.
- Become attached to stuffed animals or loveys.
- Physically affectionate.
- Enjoy learning new things.
- Need and seek praise.
- Need routine and structure.
- Tactful from an early age.
What the Parent of an ENFJ needs to know:
- Easily wounded, and quick to forgive upon receiving an apology.
- Deeply hurt when a parent yells or speaks sharply to them.
- Strong need for harmony. Conflict is a huge stressor.
- Best to allow the child to feel what they feel, when they feel it. They will quickly move through their feelings when this is allowed.
- Instead of yelling, influence by validating their feelings and helping them come up with solutions and alternative responses.
- Easily manipulated due to their need to please
- Quick to self-sacrifice to please others
- Can get cranky with insufficient time socializing with other children
- When learning, they’re motivated by connection to others. The more they like the teacher, the harder they will work to please the teacher.
- Writing can be a good outlet for their creativity
- All it takes is one negative criticism from a parent to make them question the parent’s love for them.
- Be a good listener and serve as an outlet for them to express their feelings. Often.
- Need frequent reminders of your love and acceptance of them.
- Offer lots of physical affection.
- Support their imagination and need for make-believe play.
- Provide lots of opportunities for crafts and art play. Demonstrate pride in their creations by hanging them up around the house.
- Need 1:1 time with their parents.
- Empower them to make decisions as much as possible.
- Silent treating them will make them feel abandoned. It’s unproductive. If you need space, remind them of your love for them and let them know you simply need to take a little time to recharge.
- Remind them they are perfectly ok just as they are. They will be harder on themselves than you ever could be.
- Teach them how to respond to conflict, and how to speak up as necessary, even if it may hurt someone’s feelings.
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