If you haven’t already, complete the “Are you a people pleasing stepmom?” quiz and check back here once you have your results.
Otherwise, read on to see what your score says about you:
15 to 30 points
You’re quite good at setting boundaries and saying no when necessary. Your opinion of yourself is rarely influenced by the opinions of others. And you’re clear on what you want and need to thrive as a stepmom. Congrats on prioritizing your happiness alongside the happiness of others.
31 to 45 points
Sometimes you struggle with prioritizing your needs alongside the wants of others. Remember to pause before saying yes or no, and work up the courage to say no as needed. Although it may be uncomfortable to say no, it’s better than the resentment that comes from saying yes when you really want to say no.
46 to 60 points
You consistently struggle with setting boundaries. Sometimes you do what you need to do, but most of the time you do what other people want you to do. Your goal is to avoid conflict and you’re likely to succeed, unless you feel passionate about the topic at hand. If people get upset with you for saying no, you may become anxious or do what it takes to please them. Your opinion of yourself may be influenced by opinions of others which gives them power over you. Read on to learn how to make your life as a stepmom easier.
60 to 75 points
Welp. You probably already knew this about yourself, but you’re a chronic people pleasing stepmom. From sun up to sun down you prioritize the joy of others over yours. On the very rare occasion you do say no, it may come across overly aggressive because of your discomfort with the word “no”.
The unexpected benefits of setting boundaries:
Learning to set healthy boundaries not only benefits you, it benefits your perception of others.
Research shows those who have firm boundaries are more likely to believe others are doing the best they can with the tools they have, even when their best is conniving and manipulative.
When you’re protected by boundaries, it’s easier to empathize with those who try to hurt you. You’re able to recognize an attack as a cry for help, instead of a personal attack.
Learning to set boundaries is not as simple as learning to say no. If it was, we’d all be doing it. It requires increasing your tolerance for discomfort, learning how to transform conflict effectively, and increasing your self-worth.
Regardless of how high you scored, there are simple strategies you can learn to set healthy boundaries and minimize conflict.