When our stepchildren act out it’s because they want attention.
I don’t know why wanting attention is often perceived as shameful. The need for attention is a basic human need. After all, as a child, we would literally die without attention.
If we replace “attention” with “connection” it may be easier to empathize with them.
Let’s take a break from disciplining them for how they cry out for help, and instead focus on answering their cry for help.
It is much easier to influence behavior after we connect.